WWYDW if you saw a small child using a restaurant as a playground and the mom couldn’t care less?

Before I get into today’s What Would You Do Wednesday I just want to take a moment and let Maria, quoted here:  “Hi! My name is Maria and I am a fan of your husbands show Murdoch Mysteries. Someone in an FB posted a link to your blog and I decided to check it out. Don’t take this the wrong way or anything, I was reading some of your blog posts and you seem kinda full of yourself. Bye” know that I am in fact very full of myself.  Why wouldn’t I be???  I’m a bad-ass, intelligent, kind, loving, witty, talented, mother, wife, friend, philanthropist, sister and daughter.  I’m happy you noticed that after life did its best to take me out, I rose like a phoenix out of the ashes and am living my best, most blessed and fabulous life.  I’m not sorry if that pisses you off Maria, but I am sorry that you thought that your opinion of me would change my opinion of me.  So “Bye” to you indeed Maria.

Now, on to today’s WWYDW scenario:

You’re in a crowded restaurant during the lunch rush, you enter the busy dining room and nearly walk right into a small not even two year old child running through the restaurant.  As the hostess tries to avoid tripping over the small child while taking you to your table you notice the mother is sitting, comfortably, not paying one iota’s worth of attention to her kid as they continue to run around the tables, and the waitstaff.

The hostess and I exchanged “can you believe some parents” dialogue, mine filled with expletives, hers not, because she was working.  But it got me thinking, if you were a customer in a busy, crowded restaurant and witnessed a child running loose like it was on an outdoor playground would you:

a)  ask the hostess, for the safety of the child, and all the employees to approach the mother and have her sit her child down in a chair?

b)  speak to the child directly telling them to go sit in their seat?

c)  approach the parent yourself and let them know your concerns for the safety of not only their child in the environment, but for the well being of all the servers as well?

d)  do nothing?

As always I cannot wait to hear what you guys would do in this situation, I already know what I did do and will share it with you tomorrow!




  1. OK first off HOW DARE MARIA?! She was so RUDE, Who does she think she is? besides an ignorant, rude, thoughtless, bitch. BYE!! INDEED!!
    As to WWYDW I have run into this more than once. Generally I would say ask the hostess to try to take care of it. If told they can’t do anything I would probably tell them that I would just leave then. The parents obviously don’t care about safety or controlling their child so I don’t expect talking to them would do anything, Doing nothing would cause stress for trying to eat a meal. So I would find another place to eat,

  2. I would go with (c). No way a small child should be running around a restaurant unattended. This is a disaster waiting to happen! xo

  3. I would choose A speak to the hostess. If that doesn’t work I would speak loudly so that mother would hear me complain. 🤨

  4. I came across your blog recently and I wanted to let you know that I look forward to reading it. I don’t always agree with you but that’s okay, everyone is entitled to their own thoughts and opinions. I like that it might get people to think about things without going through life with blinders on. I must admit that I detest politics so sometimes I skip a post but overall I look forward to reading them.

  5. First, I have a note for Maria. “Hi! My name is Laurie! I’m a fan of the internet and of strong, confident, smart and hilarious women and so I came across Shantelle’s blog. I just wanted to say that it’s really a shame that you cannot use the internet for good and maybe champion a sister, but instead feel the need to knock them down. You’re acting like a jerk. Okay, bye!”

    I’ve waited tables and I’m here to tell you that if I had accidentally tripped over a wild child in the dining room it would have been MY ass on the line. Actiions like this are why there are restaurants that don’t allow children, and I’m all for that. As a mom, I remember both of my parents telling me that they had received compliments from others in restaurants about how well behaved my brother and I were. I’m not here to pat us on the back. Rather, I’m here to say that if my brother and I can behave in a restaurant, ANY kid can learn to do it. I am glad that we managed to pull off that feat with our daughter and as a result, she was able to enjoy restaurant dining. Actually, there were a couple of issues around the age of three, and we stopped taking her for a year or so before trying it out again. Like me, she enjoys restaurant dining too much to lose that priviledge again, so she smartened up.

    If it had been a situation where there was an interaction with me and the child directly, I would go right to the parent and tell them. If it was an annoyance though I wasn’t immediately involved in any potential “accident”, I would tell the staff. But *someone* would be hearing from me, no question.

  6. I read your blog because you do have opinions and please carry on sharing them.

    I would probably do A with a small child. If it was on older child I would do B. I work in a museum and one day I had to reprimand a child of about 10 years old for touching where we had asked for children just to look with their eyes and not their fingers. The look the accompanying father gave me could have killed but the child didn’t touch again. Pity he could not have taken charge.

  7. A – absolutely! I’d let someone else get attitude from the child’s mother because as you pointed out, she wasn’t paying attention to the little rascal. So she’s oblivious to how her child’s behavior affects everyone around them and I predict that she’d go off on whoever broached the subject with her. Some people should not breed! She’s one of them!

  8. None of the above. I’d walk out and let the restaurant know why. It’s their establishment and their choice not to alienate one customer at the expense of all the others.

    When I worked at a public library parents would drop their kids off for us to watch while they went to the mall. The kids didn’t check out books or have a project, they were there because the library is a “safe place” and mom wanted to shop. (First, libraries are not safe places, no place free and open to the public is). We had to corral them and keep them from disturbing other patrons … babysitting at taxpayer expense. It didn’t happen more than once.

  9. Ask the hostess to approach the parent. Mother might get upset and leave but the the other patrons will be thrilled!

  10. I would unfortunately do D. Not proud to say that and I would be furious on the inside.

    As for Maria….so a strong, intelligent woman with opinions is full of herself? I find her words unnecessary and never needed to be said to you. You are delightful, thought-provoking, and compassionate especially about those who cannot stand for and defend themselves. I am baffled why she had to say anything at all to you. She could have realized your blog is not for her and just not read it ever again and went on her merry way. Her comment was not helpful and was not productive and should not have been written/said.

  11. Oh, this is one of those ones where the woke moms get mad….

    I would do C, because I don’t mind taking this on myself. I would definately angle the argument towards the child’s safety, because this sort of parent gives maybe two f**ks about their child, but absolutely none about anyone else (otherwise this would be a non-issue).

    I would only involve the hostess if my first attempt didn’t work. Too many people are afraid to get into this sort of thing, most likely because they don’t know how a stranger will react, and it’s easier to let someone else do the ‘dirty work’. This then means that people totally forget how to handle ‘the uncomfortable conversation’ – we are becoming scared of communicating directly with people.
    But as your interaction with Maria shows (rather perfectly, I might add), we have no fears about or trouble with being very forthright with people on social media. And this is probably the reason we’re having trouble IRL: Online things escalate from 0-100 in all of two tweets, and people forget how to do a slower back and forth, which is what works IRL.
    If we get accustomed to handling uncomfortable stuff without going straight to screaming/insulting or feeling insulted at the tiniest suggestion/percieved insult, then we’re on our path to becoming better people/a better society.

  12. Probably a and if that didn’t work then c and if that didn’t work then I’d probably get a little cross. And as far as Maria is concerned, she’s a bit of a twat. I’ve only come across your blog in the last few weeks and really enjoy reading what you have to say. Especially because it’s topical and relevant and certainly makes me think about stuff. It’s nice to know that Australians and those from North America oft times think alike (although those directly south of Canada can be a bit odd). Keep on with what you’re doing – it’s great.

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