I raise my voice and my opinion and I’m a bitch; a man does the same and he’s simply a man.

Strong confident woman

Exactly one year ago today I wrote one of my favorite blogs ever.  I’m re-blogging this for all my readers who are new to me, and unlike some of you, haven’t gone back in the archives to see what they might have missed.  When I wrote this it was before a reality star won the presidency.  It was long before women’s rights were at risk the way they are just twelve short months later.  I always write from my heart, so when I wrote this there was no way I could have possibly known that it was about to get a whole lot worse for us women than it already was.  Yet here we are.  There is a leader in the White House who is systematically removing human rights for all people who are not straight old white men.  It is disheartening.  But I say we push on harder than we did before.  We cannot let this current administration push us back into the kitchen, we’ve made such incredible progress, we cannot lose hope or steam.

This is an attitude that has always fascinated me. The one that all strong women, in business, or in life, when they stick to their guns, or insist that they know the correct way for a task to be executed, then express themselves with confidence, and strength, get called a BITCH.

Usually behind her back.

And sadly, not only by men, but fellow females too.

Why? Why can’t I, you, all of us women be strong? Or speak with conviction, and authority, and simply be referred to as, savvy, fearless, admirable, bold or any other descriptive, positive word?

Why must I, or you, be labeled BITCH, but men are just men? I don’t get it. Never have.

When I was cheering professionally, back in 1991 for the Grey Cup winning Toronto Argonauts, we were in Winnipeg for the big game. A bunch of us were having drinks in the hotel room with our choreographer, he called me a bitch for an opinion I was sharing, I suggested he rethink his attitude toward me. He refused, and carried on further. He ended up wearing my drink, in his face. If you want bitch, I can give you bitch. Many years later he was charged with some sexual offence, that I didn’t care enough to pay attention to, it simply confirmed what I already knew about the man. He didn’t respect women. End of story. Later when I went into business for myself, and opened the only TaeBo studio outside of LA, I had to deal with a plethora of gym owners, instructors, you name it who were all trying to claim they “were certified to teach TaeBo.” They were not. I was the only person outside of Billy Blanks’ LA studio who had been trained, and certified by him while living in LA. Every day, for a good year, began with me sending out a polite, “Hi, I’m Shantelle Bisson, a certified, authentic Billy Blanks TaeBo instructor who owns the Toronto TaeBo studio. Billy, and I, would appreciate if you would stop trying to confuse consumers with the claim that you are sanctioned. Blah, blah, blah…”

A lovely, light, friendly, Cease and Desist letter. Without fail, one of two things would happen: 1) they would flat out ignore me, and continue on in their stealing, lying ways, or 2) they would call, or show up at my studio so they could personally tell me to “go f*#k myself.” Charming. My reaction was also, always the same. They were served a real Cease and Desist letter from my legal team.

You know what happened in the fitness community?

I got the label of being a BITCH.

Oh right, cuz trying to protect my investment, and my reputation while you try to cheat, steal and lie makes me the person of “ill repute?”

Makes total sense.

What compelled me to share this topic, as my thing that makes me “go hmmm” today, is due to Hilary Clinton’s speech last night, which I’ve yet to watch. But, I’ve watched snippets of it on my computer, and also read some of the comments, which cause me distress, in the way men are speaking about her. As if because she’s a woman she’s incapable, or not worthy of aspiring to be President. Never mind having the “right” in some of their opinions to run, and win. Check out the covers of some of the major newspapers. Who is on every single cover. Hilary. Nah. Why her? She’s just a woman attempting to become the first female President. It’s Bill. Bill is on the front page. That saddens me. It reveals that we’re really not any further ahead than we were in 1991, or 1998, even though my examples, above, happened a quarter of a century ago.


People, come on. Men, honestly. Wake the f*#k up. We’re good enough to make families with. We’re bright/important/trustworthy enough to run your households, raise your kids, take care of YOU. But we still cannot assert ourselves without being called a BITCH? Or lead a Country due to our gender???

Hmmm, hmmm, hmmm…

1 Comment

  1. This is a topic that always pisses me off to no end! I have been called a bitch more times in my life than I can count by some men. I am PROUD to be called a bitch. Because I get listened to! In my profession, that is predominantly male, I’ve had to bust my ass to be better than the rest! All women that work in my field, I.T. Engineering, have to be better than our male colleagues.
    Luckily, I am at a point in my career where I am considered a SME, a subject matter expert. I am respected and treated that way by 99% of the men I work with. There are still, the 1% that treat me like I have 2 brain cells in my head. That makes me nuts! It is with these types that I now, in my 34 years in this field, let them have it verbally, immediately! I guess my lack of patience in general, and my, “I’m so close to retirement I can see it” attitude, that I shoot off as soon as I am disrespected in ANY way. And you know what, they back the F*#% down and my male colleagues chime in with me. My reputation is that I know my shit and I don’t take any shit from anyone and believe it or not, I am respected even if they may call me names behind my back, I really don’t give a flyin F*#%!
    But a woman trying to run for President, GF, that will NEVER happen in this country in my or your lifetime! Not as long as the old white boy network keeps getting re-elected to Congress.

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