Are hyper sexual social media females creating Fuck Boys???

“100% of boys are Fuck Boys.”  Hard science from my twenty year old daughter.

I’d love to tell you what classifies a Fuck Boy, but as Mikaela is teaching me, there are so many different types of Fuck Boys that you can’t really just point to one character trait that separates a Fuck Boy from a Non-Fuck Boy.  They’re like onions, if you find yourself dealing with a real live Fuck Boy, he will have many, many, traits that point to fitting the M.O so as you uncover one of the traits mentioned below, chances are your Fuck Boy will have one, or more of the others as well.

You have the Lying Fuck Boy.  Lead you on Fuck Boy.  The blatantly hooks up with other girls, but comes back to you when nobody wants to hook up with them Fuck Boy.  Only hits you up when it’s dark out Fuck Boy.  The 3am Fuck Boy, just to name a few.

What I’ve gleaned from the many conversations I’ve been privy to with my two single daughters, and their girlfriends, is that there seems to be a new trend in single men.  It’s the “grass is always greener” mentality that I know we’ve all suffered with from time to time in our lives, but these days it seems to be the only way young men live.  The new trend in non-relationship type young men is rooted in the “grass is always greener” with a healthy dose of FOMO (fear of missing out)and like all things wrong with our world, in my opinion at least, this points directly back to social media. You see I have a theory about the sudden spike in Fuck Boy population, and I’ve been waiting a while to find the perfect segue into this post about them.  It seems to me that yesterday’s post about young women putting it all out there on their social media pages to a) gain followers in order to b) be given free shit, or better yet, if they’re lucky at all, c) make actual $$$ from exploiting themselves; provided the perfect opening, and I didn’t even do that on purpose.

Anyway, carrying on.  It is in my humble opinion that a large piece of the Fuck Boy puzzle has to do with the glut of hyper sexual girls out in social media land.  Now don’t misunderstand me, I’m not BLAMING women for the way young men are treating women.  Not at all.  What I’m saying is that they play a part in what is going out there for the girls who aren’t interested in being mostly naked, or with full make up on, with a blow out, and their faces filtered to a perfect complexion that nobody on this planet, not even a baby with virgin skin has, all over their social media feeds.  I compare a lot of today’s Instagram females to 70’s porn stars, in that they are setting up unrealistic ideals of what makes a woman sexy.  The one big difference between then, and now, is that back in the day young guys watched porn, when they could sneak it, and looked at magazines like Playboy, Hustler, Penthouse etc etc etc when their dad would leave the house.  It was hard to come by, and porn wasn’t readily available, playing on your TV stations the way it does today.  It was hard for a young man to come across an over sexualized female, they really had to go hunting around for it.  This isn’t the case anymore.  In fact, I would put money on this, I believe that it’s probably harder for a young man to come across a “normal” girl on his social media feeds on a daily basis than it is to see one who is using their sexuality to garner attention.

Which brings me to my point about how social media is creating these Fuck Boys, so girls like my two daughters, you know who don’t reconstruct their faces thanks to two hours worth of make up application, so you know if they have a zit, they ACTUALLY have a zit, and the guy their dating would probably see that.  Also, my girls don’t thin booth every limb on their body before posting a photo.  Nor do they face tune their faces.  Or wear push up bikini tops so their breasts appear to be implants, when they’re not, they’re just normal boobs that probably don’t sit up like cantaloupes on their chests when their bras come off.  You see, young men today don’t know what to do with a real girl, one that has some cellulite, a pimple or two, and doesn’t have the perfect nose, or their lashes don’t hit their eyebrows, nor do they have the desire for sex all day long.  They’re regular people, natural girls who want to find a loving partner to build a life with, but when all they’re coming across are guys who keep thinking they might catch a girl like the girls they see on social media if they just stay single, it makes finding a partner really tough.

Like almost impossible.

The problem is, these guys don’t understand that most of what they’re seeing on their social media feeds is all fabricated, to try and explain to them that those “perfect super sexy women” on their feeds will at the end of the day probably say “NO” to sex and blow jobs too from time to time, is an uphill battle.  And since these guys don’t know this, it’s hard to get them to stick around.  It’s difficult to get the Fuck Boy’s to understand that those girls with the tits under their chins, with the hair down (courtesy of extensions) to their dimple free asses don’t really look like that either.  It’s like all the girls playing the smoke and mirror game on their social media pages are the creators of their own demise.  Because what’s going to happen when a man finally does take you home, and your weave comes out, your make up washes off, your body is soft with a few dimples here or there, and your breasts fall to the side when you lie on your back?  Then what?  I’ll tell you what, the Fuck Boy you helped to create, will walk out on you too.

Maybe just maybe, women need to trust in themselves more.  Believe that if your hair won’t grow past your shoulders, it’s beautiful, and your nose with the bump on the bridge makes your face yours, making you uniquely beautiful and original.  Perhaps if women didn’t place an unrealistic expectation of being “perfect” enough to get ahead in life or get a man, everybody would begin to settle down, and start looking at each other for how they make one another feel rather than how the person on their arm makes them look.

And let it be known that according to my daughter this is the last time any of us are to refer to these types of young men as “Fuck Boys” because apparently the term is already dead.  So I asked her; “What do we call them now then?”

And she responded dryly with; “You just don’t.”

Touche littlest Bisson, touche.

So there you have it “Fuck Boys” have already come and gone, thank God for that.

1 Comment

  1. “and your nose with the bump on the bridge makes your face yours”
    I really like how you put that.

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