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Why do some fans think “petting” Yannick is an okay thing to do??

I’m constantly amazed by how people react to my husband.  To me he is good ole YB, who falls asleep too early for my nighthawk ways, and rises with too much piss and vinegar in the morning, for my anti-morning personality.  He’s the boy I fell in love with, who grew into a most incredible man. One I could have never imagined he would become when we first begun dating, all those years ago.  Organizations giving him awards based on his work, makes total sense to me.  Even if he wasn’t my husband, I would agree with most everybody that he is in fact, a National Treasure.  One that should not only be cherished, but honoured.  He loves his country, he is loyal to it, and every chance he gets he shouts from the roof top that he is Canadian.  He works side by side with me on all our charity endeavors, and uses his brand to help bring attention to them.

In short, he’s pretty spectacular, and I’m blessed that he is my partner in crime in this one life we have.

But, here’s the thing I don’t get, nor does he.

I don’t get how people, mostly women, feel it’s totally okay to “fondle” him when they meet him.  Like imagine if the tables were turned?  Imagine if Yannick walked up to women he didn’t know, grabbed them, pulled them in for unwanted hugs, and sometimes went as far to kiss them on the cheek, or pat their chests?  All without consent.

Close your eyes and picture that.

Yeah, you’re with me.  It wouldn’t go well.  Women would have a great deal to say about it I’m sure.  They would have a lot to say about it even as YANNICK BISSON, never mind if he were just a man moving through life, who just happened to be the uber friendly sort.  So, since it would be so offside for Yannick to treat strange women like this, why is it seemingly okay for strange women to approach and touch YB in this way?  It makes me go “hmmm.”

Just today a woman was stunned to open a solid door to have Yannick standing on the other side of it.  She was, not surprisingly, taken aback to have him right there in front of her face holding the door for her.  So what did she do?  She promptly told him as much, and then told him that she loved him.  All good, until she moved in to pet him.  And this is where it all went wrong.  I’m not saying he doesn’t enjoy meeting fans, or that he doesn’t appreciate fans stopping him to share how much he, the show, his work all means to them, because he truly does.  I’ve said it before, if he doesn’t have a plate of food in front of him you can approach him to grab a chat if you should see him out and about, with no qualms.  But pet him?  Or come in for a hug without asking him first?  Kisses on the cheek?  These are all big fat nos.  They’re as much a big fat no for women to do it him as they are for him to do to women.  So let’s all agree, moving forward, so as not to make YB feel super awkward after a chance encounter with you; how about everybody refrain from petting him, or touching him at all, unless you’re taking a photo together and he asks you if you’d like to hug for the photo.  Everything else my friends is as inappropriate toward him as it would be if being done back to you.

Can I get an Amen on this???

 

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27 Comments

  1. Nope. Nope. Nope. Totally not okay to invade someone’s personal space simply because they are a celebrity (and all that that brings with it). I’m a hugger – it’s what I feel compelled to do – but I’m attuned to my surroundings so I know what the boundaries are. An honest smile and a heart felt “thank you” would have gone over far better.

    Totally true that a meet and greet situation is a different animal entirely, especially when the celebrity asks you to come on in closer (lucky you!)

    You get a big thumbs up from me!

  2. I barely can choke out a hello or thank you when I meet a celebrity. However, in defense of some fans, some people are huggers and kissers in general in social situations. I’m a cold New Englander but my mother’s family is Acadian French. I notice the young friends of my niece hug and kiss a lot. I had one older Irish gentleman kiss me on the cheek once at my job (library). But I agree that when in doubt, hands off. I do the same when encountering fellow dog walkers too. You never know whether a dog may nip or jump.

  3. Damn I just realized the comment I just left was a story from 13 yrs ago. I was 52. My old ass should have know better LOL!

  4. Amen!
    Since I’m old enough to be YB’s mother I might pat his arm in a motherly way, but petting him or kissing him without his permission is a big no no. I’ve met quite a few celebrities(David James Elliott) in my life and would never dream of touching any of them without their permission. DJE did kiss me at the Boston Marathon several years ago. The main reason he stopped as he was coming in to the hotel was he saw the shirt I had on, which I had made and he stopped to read it. “I would like to kiss DJE! What HARM could it do” He found it pretty funny. So after the pictures were take of the ladies I was with we turned to leave and he tapped me on the shoulder “Didn’t you forget something? And leaned down and kissed my cheek”. The group of ladies I was with were staying all together in suites at the Copley hotel in Boston and DJE was staying there also. Only we didn’t know he and his family were in the suite next to ours. So when we got back up stairs and the silliness started over the kiss and the meet and greet we had no idea he could hear it all through the walls. (Yes wine, whiskey and other adult beverages were involved) I ran out in my nightgown to get more ice and he was just opening the door to his suite to put the dinner trays out. He just smiled and said “sounds like you ladies are having a great time.” I gasped, whipped around dashed back in the room, slamming the door and went “Holy F++K++g Christ he’s right next store and probably heard every stupid thing we said or have done.
    Were we embarrassed? You bet! Would have changed it? Not for anything in the world. The next morning as we were checking out he and his family walked by us. He winked and waved.
    So if YB sees a group of crazed old ladies he might want to be for warned. We won’t pet him, but we may drag him into the bar for around or two of shots. We do our very best to be a bad influence.
    Damn us “Harmy Ladies” had some good times. And now most of us are MM fans!
    Cathy

  5. Yeah, I don’t even like when people I don’t know get too close to me! But it must be that celebrity creates an illusion that fans KNOW the person. Plus their love for the character blinds them to the reality that the actor Is a different person, and doesn’t know the fan! It’s a weird situation. I don’t think I would handle being a celebrity very well. As if that would ever happen.

  6. Hi.. Everyone will agree with you that you can’t just touch a stranger.. especially if a man does it to a women.. and yes that is a double standard if we are thinking is black and white absolutes. With your husband’s line of work, however, he puts himself “out-there” and as he has said in many interviews he “goes into the homes of many viewers”. People have a type of private relationship with your husband and any actor they are fond of. You know this, as I’m sure you you have specific celebrities that you follow or are more curious about. People are different and have very different boundaries, and as awkward and uncomfortable as it may be to get touched by a fan, it’s going to continue to happen. The weirdness will continue to for both you and your husband. I don’t like others getting too inside my interpersonal closeness bubble and I certainly would never touch a celebrity, but I think it goes with the career choice. Maybe he needs to always carrying something, or position himself to avoid the hugs and kisses though… or develop a phrase that is polite, but informs others to not touch.

  7. AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    What an elegant piece you have written. I enjoy watching the shows your husband has made and have known that a great woman stands beside him. Your daughter’s are beautiful too. I hope that everyone gets the message. He should have a tee shirt that reads “PLEASE ask permission before touching,” Sincerely his wife!” Lol. Have a beautifully blessed day.

    As a woman, wife, mother, and grandmother, I would not appreciate someone doing that to my husband and grandson’s or granddaughter.

  8. Vous avez tout à fait raison, et plus ses fans se conduiront ainsi et moins il aura certainement envie de les rencontrer…

  9. I guess it must be difficult for a wife/husband to see a stranger kiss or hug them. But understand that people love YB. Not just because he is handsome beyond all, but because he is a talented individual. One hopes that all that stardust will rub off some how and we just want to touch a star. He also comes across as a heck of a nice guy.

    So please understand that we mean no disrespect, but we just love him and some of us just can’t help ourselves. On the other hand, I guess it would be nice to be asked if one could have a hug or give a kiss. Some people just are overcome with emotion and don’t stop to think…they just react. BTW I have never met YB, but I would love to and I can’t promise that I would not want at least to give him a hug. I will try to remember to ask first.

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  10. I guess it must be difficult for a wife/husband to see a stranger kiss or hug them. But understand that people love YB. Not just because he is handsome beyond all, but because he is a talented individual. One hopes that all that stardust will rub off some how and we just want to touch a star. He also comes across as a heck of a nice guy.

    So please understand that we mean no disrespect, but we just love him and some of us just can’t help ourselves. On the other hand, I guess it would be nice to be asked if one could have a hug or give a kiss. Some people just are overcome with emotion and don’t stop to think…they just react. BTW I have never met YB, but I would love to and I can’t promise that I would not want at least to give him a hug. I will try to remember to ask first.

  11. Absolutely AMEN Shantell!

    You make a number of a very good points here which are spot on. I have not met Yannick, but I do enjoy MM. I don’t live in Toronto, but have often wondered if I had a chance encounter what would I do? I would certainly be delighted, and probably more than a little taken aback. I might extend my hand to shake his and maybe ask for an autograph, if there was any way to do it. But I would NOT do anything beyond that. He’s an actor, yes, a good one and well known, and known for being personable and friendly, but he’s also a man who is entitled to have his space respected.

    In the past, had a chance meeting on a plane once enroute home to the Windsor area when I found myself sitting next to an actor I recognized from a soap opera I knew my mother and her sister watched daily. His body language was such that he clearly did not want any attention, and though I sat beside him all the way to Toronto (from Edmonton) I made no attempt to chat with him other than excusing myself to use the washroom (I had the window seat and had been upgraded to business class on a compassionate ticket). I did tell mom about the encounter and it cheered her up (she was in hospital and it was the last time I saw her before she passed away). In other words, I respected his space, as I would should I happen to meet either you or Yannick. Anything beyond a casual hand shake would not be appropriate. And no, I would not appreciate someone doing something other than a handshake when greeting a veritable stranger. I know of Yannick, but he would not know me from a hill of beans. And I frankly have too much respect for him in general to be so forward, not to mention respecting his marriage to you.

    All that said, I would be delighted to meet Yannick and you, Shantell someday. I so enjoy MM’s…great cast, great writing, and great acting. Much of what happens reminds me of the stories my grandmother used to tell me about that time.

    Anyway, I will say again “Amen” to your post, and ladies in general, when you meet him, which he wouldn’t mind (presuming he’s not eating), don’t do anything that he WOULD mind…that just gets awkward…have a little respect for the man and his wife.

  12. Amen to that indeed!! It does amaze me when I see women meeting celebrities and they grab their face to kiss them … Shocking!! I don’t know where they get the front to do it and think it’s acceptable!

  13. Amen.
    I am a fan too. And I am female. But I would not, did not, do that when I met Yannick. I like how you turned the tables around, especially with what is going on with celebrity men getting called up for inappropriateness . Fellow fans, it is HIGHLY INAPPROPRIATE to physically touch someone without their permission! Yeah you may feel you know Yannick, from watching the show, Facebook, Twitter, etc. but you are a stranger to him. Respect that!!!

  14. AMEN! Everyone deserves to have their personal space respected. Use words to express appreciation…but always keep in mind that we are all entitled to dignity & respect…it’s a right as inhabitants of this earth.

  15. You married an extremely attractive man who is now famous. Goes with the territory. Price of fame. Don’t like it marry a non famous ugly person.

  16. AMEN! I’m a Dane who “love” Murdock Mysteries and I admire your husbonds work.
    I’ts nok OK to touch other people that way just because we are fans. We fans don’t own our idols or the right to pet them.

    Merry Christmas to you and your family 😀

  17. OMG AMEN!!! I would be thrilled to shake his hand and tell him how much I love his work on screen and off. I promise no touching, petting. A picture would be great but only on HIS terms and. Yours.

  18. I will DEFINITELY give you an Amen to that. I have always been a reserved person. I will never understand how some people (mostly women) pour themselves all over an actor / celebrity when they see them. I had a friend tell me, that to them once a person becomes “famous” they give up the right to have a private life. The actor becomes “theirs” (the fan) to treat and do as they please. I couldn’t believe my ears, how is this even logical? Why should a star give up all rights and privacy because they became famous?

  19. Amen. It works both ways. He is a national treasure but not a piece of meat…respect ladies…respect him the way you would want to be respected.

  20. Amen! How crass! I wouldn’t dare do that to anyone; I’d be stunned, but not moved to touch someone I had no right to touch. OK, that’s me, that’s how I role!
    But, Shantelle, isn’t that what you did to John Taylor? Even though it was a meet and greet and you knew you would be seeing him after all these years of “dreaming” of meeting him? Isn’t there a picture of you with your hand on his left breast? Sure he’s not a woman, but it’s still his chest YOU were petting!! Just a thought!

  21. Amen! (And noted) Over the past 10 years or so, the whole world has gotten a lot more touchy-feely. Sometimes too much so, in my book. So if we could all agree to NOT come in for hugs etc unless agreed upon, that would be great.

  22. Amen sister. I am shocked that anyone would be so foolish as to thrust themselves at a man without invitation. I think people view actors, not as people, but almost as something different. They figure that if they watch a show and are emotionally invested it gives the rights. I have seen actor friends, women, get fondled in the same way. I don’t believe anyone should invade a person’s personal space. It may be because we hold actors and athletes above the rest. I have been around actors and ” famous” people and never felt the need to even ask for an autograph. I see them as people. Should by chance,I ever meet you & your husband I think I might be more interested in speaking with you. Sorry Yannick but we girls gotta stick together and I like your wife’s style.Merry Christmas!

  23. If women truly want equality, that means rules that apply to men apply equally to us. I hold doors for guys as much as the reverse. If someone puts their hands on me unbidden they know my displeasure. Sadly YB can’t do the same because of his status as a celebrity. Perhaps Rick Springfield has9 some advice. For every fan who steps over the line there must be 10 of us who would never ever. And as his success grows it’s probably going to require loss of even more privacy. I wonder what it is about celebrity that negates ordinary social boundaries? A sense of ownership? Just weird, but look at the way women have fawned over celebrities since Frank Sinatra. And men stalk actresses. Anyway, a collective apology from all of us who would respect his space for all the rude fans who don’t.

  24. Amen amen! I just don’t get it. I guess because he seems to be in our lives via the show, social media and other venues there is a sense of familiarity. But it is not an excuse to handle the merchandise! Unacceptable! Once again AMEN. I wish you and yours sincere best wishes for a safe and happy Christmas and look forward to your hmmmmm’s in 2018.

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