On the eve of International Women’s Day I celebrate one of the greatest feminists; to you he might be Murdoch, but to me, he is my strength, my soul, my blessing.

On the eve of International Women’s Day I want to extend my gratitude to a man who is the biggest fan of women that I’ve ever met.  My husband, Yannick, is truly the kindest, most considerate, and loving man I’ve ever encountered.  After living the first 13 years of my life with a neglectful man, my father.  A man, who no fault of his own, it’s not as if he had any positive role model to go off of, could have cared less if I was even alive, and then the assault from two other men, and an attack from males that I went to school with…shit, let’s just say I didn’t have much hope/faith in the male species to be anything but shitty to me…I was gifted the greatest man of all.  In my heart I didn’t for one second think that I could find a man, a love, that would last my lifetime.  In fact, I’ve done my absolute best to sabotage it.  To kill it.  To abuse it to the point where he would never want me again.  I’ve tried everything I could think of to make this man, my husband, become an enemy to me.

Yet he never did.

He didn’t bite.

He definitely got his heart broken, his soul crushed by me, but he never gave up on me.  He never quit.  The worse I was, it seemed like he only loved me more.  The harder I attempted to push him out the door, the closer he held me.

I’m blessed.  I was shown the worst side of men, and then the universe gifted me him.  The purest, kindest, most loving side of a man that there ever was.

Our girls are also blessed.  There is not a topic that they cannot speak to him about.  There is no story they can share that he won’t listen and support them in any way they need.  He is not neglectful.  He is hands on.  He is fun.  He is thoughtful.  He is strong, and he is their benchmark for what a man should be.

On the eve of International Women’s Day I’m thankful to have the love, support, wisdom and solidarity of one of the greatest feminists I know.  My husband, my lover, my best friend, my strength.  Here is to all us incredible rock star women and all the men who are right there beside us.  It is not us VS them.  We women, and men all together make up human kind, and we must stand united.  We must all have the same rights over our bodies.  We must earn equal wages for equal work.  And we must be respected by the opposite sex when we say no.  We must be allowed to cry, and not have that lessen our worth, or our credentials.

Thank you to my man who knows that without women, this world is worth nothing.  Thank you to my husband who assisted me in giving life to three more bad ass, strong, independent, worthy females.  I love you for loving me/us with all your heart and getting us no matter what day of the month it is.

I am blessed.  You are blessed.  We are blessed together.

13 Comments

  1. All together now… AWWW…..
    You should both be very proud of what you’ve built, Shantelle.
    Sure, you’ve had your challenges, but at the end of the day, love prevails.
    Always.

  2. You are indeed blessed and very wise. We should all be so lucky as to find a partner, an equal to share our lives with. Awww XXX

  3. Tears! I too was lucky to find a man to loves, supports, and encourages me to be the badass lady I hope to be. Like you, I didn’t think I could find love and acceptance after years of abuse from so called “friends”. And I too did everything I could to get him to hate me and walk away. But he didn’t. We are lucky ladies to have these incredible, kind, and loving men by our side. Loving the blog!

  4. From the daughter of a wonderful, supportive man, who raised me to be a very strong, independent woman, I agree that your daughters are also blessed. I have been fortunate enough to find a man as my husband who truly respects me and my confidence and independence and I am happy that you were able to find yours. He truly does seem to be a wonderful man.

  5. So glad you found each other. Growing up without a father or male role model and not trusting males for what they had done to me in the past when I met my hubby at age 12.5 within 2hrs I knew I would marry him. I pushed him away so many times feeling not worthy but he stayed. We’re both lucky to have them

  6. I, too, have a wonderful, thoughtful husband. He’s always been there for me and our daughters. We’ll celebrate 50 years together in a few months. I also had an absent father, both mentally and physically. I guess we served both served our time with difficult men in our childhoods and are both blessed with the ones we ended up as adults.

  7. Beautiful Shantelle. Proud to say I was similarly blessed. Off to vote now for your wonderful guy!

  8. Love your writings and I too have found a man like your Yannick. And I too feel blessed

  9. Girly, you are TRUELY BLESSED to have been given this man! He is one-of-a-kind, I’ll bet you! Treasure him, and each other because your lives can change in the blink of an eye!

    On the topic of International Women’s Day; I can’t afford to take off from work as they are asking us to do, (I don’t get paid, if I don’t work), so I am wearing RED! That’s the color of the day in support of all of us everywhere, if you can’t afford to take off. So in lieu of those of us that cannot join the “women-out” day, WEAR RED IN SUPPORT!

  10. Wow. So well put, that I can think of nothing to add. Other than, and I think I speak for many others, it warms my heart to know that there is at least one family in the universe that truly, unconditionally, love each other.

  11. Idea about your reaction to yannicks devotion. I had a friend who adopted a honduran street orphan. He started out very shy and obedient but as he became more comfortable with the US he threw tantrums and tried to discourage his parents. A psychologist told them he was testing. He didn’t believe his good fortune or that he deserved it, that they would return him and so he tested them for a couple of years until he was completely sure of them. There must be a name for this syndrome but I think it’s pretty common. Luckily no matter what you did he must have had your number. A man to be appreciated as are all the men in my family.

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