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I came “this close” to requesting that I be photo-shopped for an article.

I got so much feedback and interaction on my last few posts that I felt I needed to follow them up a little within today’s post.

It seems to me that not only is there a trend of people crowding doors to get in and out of establishments, but there’s a whole other dynamic going on out in the world, that due to my age, and good health, I’m not privy to.  This my friends is what I find worse than not holding the door for an “abled” body person.  I’ve come to learn that many of you with walkers, canes, and other walking assisted apparatuses find that even you have experienced some people’s unwillingness to be polite enough to hold a door.

To which I say; WTAF??  Is that really a thing?  I was pissed off having regular folks do it to me, but holy crap how do you keep your tongue when you are dealing with a walker, cane, or wheelchair and they treat you in the same fashion?  You’re better than me, I can say that with complete confidence.  And to anybody reading this, if you’ve found yourself guilty of doing such a thing now’s a good time to take stock and stop with that sort of selfish entitled door behaviour.  Let’s all strive to be kinder to one another when we’re out in the world living our lives.

As for the reader who asked if YB and I would be willing to move to another State where ocean view properties are not so dear.  Sadly there are a few places where his industry has roots:  LA, NYC, Toronto, and Vancouver are the only places we’d have success in advancing his career.  Florida…not so much.  But you’re sweet to take the time and throw out some suggestions.

In response to the other reader who suggested that all sports leagues have their own greed demons that they battle, and have their methods of “handling” shit that their players get up to in order to protect the bottom line, which is financial profit and gain.  I will say this; you are not wrong.  I happen to know some business about the NHL from a reliable source that isn’t good.  I believe anywhere you have billions of dollars at stake you’re going to get questionable morals, and mediocre integrity.  I wish it weren’t the case, but hey, if guys like Jared from all those Subway ads, and Mark Salling could continue to be high profile working celebrities all while carrying on disgusting, depraved double lives, how much more effort is being put into ensuring that the lid potentially being blown off of multi-billion dollar industries never happens?

Now for the guts of what today’s post is really about:  I’d like to share that I have a cover story coming out in the very near future.  A super cool magazine, that used to only be available on-line has now moved into print called Milk N Heels, is doing a feature story on moi.  I’m both honoured, and flattered to have been asked to do this article.  The magazine is a fresh, hip way to look at how being a bad-ass woman doesn’t end when you push a baby out of your business.  Check them out here, they’re really doing amazing things for the working mom.  Love them!

Anyway the moral of this blog is that we were supposed to have a photo shoot to get the pictures that would be a part of the article handled right before Christmas, but with my girls schedules, and the photographers schedule, it proved impossible.  So I dug through some of my photos from my most recent photo-shoots, along with what we got back from Brianna’s wedding and came up with a whole whack for them to pick through.  When they came back with their selections I have to confess that for a moment, a brief moment, I thought to ask them to photo shop some of them.

Why?  Well because after gaining forty pounds since entering my forties, and struggling to lose five and keep those off, I finally managed to lose twenty in a year.  But, as you can imagine when you’ve gained forty, twenty is only half of what I needed to shave off in order to hit my healthy, feel good body weight.  So when looking at some of the photos I saw a shadow of the remainder of my double chin, and I saw the not tight arms…and I panicked.  Concerned about being judged by people who might expect Yannick’s wife to be as thin, firm, and camera ready as he is.  Plus us women can be so cruel to one another in how we view each other’s bodies.  I know this to be true because I’m guilty of seeing Jessica Simpson, for example, with her extra weight on her and wondering; “what happened to her??”  To my shame I’ve even questioned why somebody with less than “perfect” arms would wear a sleeveless gown knowing they will be photographed.  Sadly I judge myself harshly, and therefore, all too often, do the same with other women.

But, I’m turning over a new leaf.  This is my year to strengthen my wellness, and in order for my wellness to be all encompassing I have to stop judging not only myself so harshly, but my fellow human beings as well.  So, in the end I left the photos as they were, dimply triceps, a slight double chin and all.  Because the truth is I’m a blessed woman, I’m more than how I look on the outside, or what I weigh.  I have an incredible life, and every single one of these photos have captured some beautiful moments of said life, and regardless of my imperfections, I’m still a bad ass woman whether I’m at my ideal weight or not, and I will celebrate my life in living colour, imperfections and all.

Happy Monday friends, go kick some “bad” ass today wherever you are and whatever your weight is!

xo SB

PHOTO CREDIT:  http://www.elizabethinlove.com/

12 Comments

  1. Congrats on leaving it be. Remember what I said about you and a young Betty Grable? You are your own star, and you shine! I’ve seen it!

    Can’t wait for the magazine!

  2. Thanks for keeping it real! I’m 51. Had cancer treatments (cancer gone now!) at the end of 2014. After that menopause happened and an underactive thyroid and 40 extra pounds. Still haven’t completely embraced the changes in my appearance but am working on it. My mind has been in a state of wtf just happened to me the last few years. I knew menopause would come but it seemed like something way off in the future and I thought it would be more gradual not this sudden change where one day I’m energetic and lively at 115 pounds and then all of a sudden I’m tired and 150. I still get suprised when I look in the mirror. Been working at getting excercise and eating better but still feel discouraged often. However I’m lucky to be here and there are many things to be thankful for.

  3. You go girl! Lets face it, menopause is a bitch. I gained all my weight after I turned 50, plus I’m a “Lab Rat”, meaning I work in a computer lab and don’t do a lot of moving. My brain gets a daily workout, but not my body. So I have what I’ve coined a “computer body”. I walk for exercise, but that’s it. I drive 4 hours a day to and from work so when I get home, I’m beat. Walking at lunchtime is my only exercise. So, I’m 35 lbs over my pre-50 weight and have been on an organic diet for the last 4 years. I take supplements and eat right, no junk and have lost 10 lbs but the remainder is still here. But you know what, I’ve decided as long as I’m healthy, I’m just going to be this way and that’s ok. I just can’t wait for spring through fall when I get get out on the golf course, now that’s fun AND exercise for me. Stay true to yourself SB! You’re doing great!

  4. You look beautiful! I would not change a thing and glad that you did not – you are a great “real” woman who has the same struggles that all us “real” women have – I applaud you!!!

  5. Kudos for not going the photo shop route. You worked hard to be the amazing woman you’ve become. Your body is only the vessel that carries all that greatness!

  6. SB,
    You go, Girl! I’m proud of you and for you. I hit 50 this year and looking back see a strong, bad ass, fluffier self, as well. But, like yourself, deem myself a “work in progress”. The struggles we have faced make us the women we are today….and, inside is what really matters. I struggled for years with a lack of confidence in myself, but as I matured and became a mother, things began to change. I no longer worried about what others thought about me and strive daily to be better than I was yesterday.

    I’m proud of who I’ve become. I’ve raised two great children, have been married to a police officer for 22 years (a feat within it’s self 😉), earned two degrees, and am the Director of a Pharmacy. Who cares if my triceps and thighs aren’t as firm as they once were. I’ll get there, as will you. With age comes wisdom and wrinkles. And, I wouldn’t have it any other way. Do I still struggle when I look in the mirror? Hell yeah, but I don’t dwell on it. It just makes me want to try harder.

    I enjoy your blog and sometimes have to agree to disagree; and, that’s OK. This is what makes us individuals and the world such a wonderful place to live. I too, have stopped judging others. For we have no idea the struggles that person might be facing or having. It is not our place to judge others, but God’s.

    From one Wonder Woman to another, have fun daily, enjoy what you do, laugh often, and love unconditionally.

    Peace and blessings,
    CM

  7. I ❤️❤️❤️‘ed this post!! You ARE a beautiful, badass inspirational woman. Thank you for being so real and for recognizing our worth is so much more than what we weigh!! If only we could all be gentle to ourselves and each other. xoxox

  8. I have tried to you this 3 times now and my laptop has frozen, One More time.
    I am glad that you did not have them change anything, You have an inner light that shines through any dimples or shadows. I just discovered you last summer but I have never seen a bad picture whether in formal wear or in a blue elephant experience garb, I think we are all hardest on ourselves. I know I hate to see myself in the mirror at the gym. Too short and too fat. But I Am at the gym so I am working on it, Iknow it takes a lot of effort to get weight off and renew your strength and flexibility (especially at 71) But we just keep working on it,
    I know YB is more than just proud to have you on his arm at anytime, dimples, shadows and all, You are not only gorgeous but amazing and inspiring,
    Can’t wait to see the article and photos they choose. What a Great honor,

  9. Shantelle, you are absolutely beautiful and stunning. I have not noticed any extra weight when you post pictures….I only see the beautiful, strong woman who has an amazing blog.

    But, I do get it about turning 40 and gaining weight. I am battling the same issue. Run 4-5 times a week, do yoga, watch what I eat and it doesn’t seem to make one ounce of difference. The weight just wants to come and stay on.

    It was great to read this post and know that I am not alone. Thank you.

  10. Bravo. It’s part of the double standard that women must be 10s while men … don’t. At the same time, I salute you for not “letting yourself go”. It means you care about yourself, have pride. Besides, a lot of appearance is genetic. There’s only so much you can do, esp. when you have a hubby who likes to treat you to dinner out. Eating out is murder on the waistline 😉

  11. Thank you for posting this. The timing was perfect for me. As a 51 year old woman who also gained that 40 pounds, I have been struggling mightily with the fact that I don’t look as good as I did even 5 years ago. But, you just reminded me how fabulous my life is and how blessed I am. Perspective is everything. 🙂

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