Was sent a comment from my moderator tonight that cracked me up. It came from BethyCake who seems to be super concerned that my teen pregnancy thwarted YB’s plans to become a professor, or doctor. She has a lot of questions about me being a teen mom, so I thought I’d throw her a bone and answer her kind concerns, on my blog.
“Wow! Mom at 19! How did you manage to keep your daughters from making the same mistake you made by becoming a teen mom and causing Yannick to have to drop out of High School to support you. and the baby.”
First stop, a little history lesson for this reader.
- I had two full time jobs when I finished high school and we started dating. Yannick technically had none, since he was only auditioning.
- I owned my own car, Yannick did not.
- I was a working actress along with my two full time jobs, so I think it’s safe to say YB wasn’t supporting me, at all. Even after babies while he continued auditioning for acting gigs, I went and got another full time job when our first daughter was not even a year old. So again, he wasn’t supporting me, I was more than carrying my weight in the relationship.
- If you’re truly concerned about YB and his mental well-being after being trapped all those years ago, don’t be. You should know that our daughters are our greatest blessings and our favourite people, so you calling them a mistake is well, just asinine.
- Now I have a question for you: Is this my mother-in-law writing from an anonymous email address under a pseudonym???
Clearly Bethy is obviously no Yanny Bissony fan. Because if she was she would know that my getting pregnant at 19 wasn’t what caused him to leave high school, he’d already left high school in tenth grade, long before I even knew him. What caused him to leave high school was the fact that he’d been living on his own since he was fifteen years old, and making a shit ton of money for a kid that age. And what fifteen year old kid living in a basement apartment on their own would even dream about going to school, while making almost six figures a year? This isn’t even a make me go “hmmm” situation, this my friends is a no brainer. I can tell you that there is no kid without a strong parental support system who would get their ass out of bed to go to school if they thought life would always be that easy.
And, just so you know the way I kept my girls from getting pregnant and not becoming young mothers had nothing at all to do with me, and everything to do with them, and of course that larger than all of us thing: THEIR LIFE PLAN THAT THE UNIVERSE HAS IN STORE FOR THEM.
Trust me, when I met Yannick the last thing either of us was thinking about or looking for was love, marriage, and babies. But then the universe handed us our life savior by getting us pregnant with Brianna. Brianna literally saved our asses. We were partying and not focused on taking care of ourselves or really thinking about our futures. She turned us around, and her birth gave us something bigger than ourselves to focus on.
It sounds like maybe you, BethyCake, need something to turn you around? I mean, it’s really super hard to get your “tone” from your written comment, and it might be that English isn’t your first language so your google translator made you sound more like a bitch than you wanted to, so I’m not going to be too harsh with you. But seriously, it sounds like you either haven’t done your Yannick Bisson fact checking, or you legitimately thought I somehow sidelined his entire life, which couldn’t be further from the truth. Like did I “get teen pregnant” alone or something? I mean I don’t know if you’ve actually ever had sex, but it takes two to make a baby, and two people to be responsible for birth control, so…
Besides you should know this as well. After we discovered I was pregnant he couldn’t have been more happy, because as in his words: “Well it looks like I get to keep you.” Meaning he wasn’t exactly heartbroken at our pregnancy. Also known as, up until then I was the best thing that had ever happened to him, and with me came the other few best things that have ever happened to him…our children. So, I’m not really sure what you’re trying to start here, but I’m here to tell you not today. Not on a day when 1475 children are “lost” in America, which I can tell from your IP address is where you’re from. So maybe you should sit down and be nice, if even for one day.
And besides you said “teen pregnancy” like it was something to be ashamed of. I will always be proud of being a teen mom. I will always be thankful for being a teen mom. And I will pray today, and every single day for any mom who is living without her child(ren)tonight that they find some comfort somewhere, somehow. A child is the greatest gift that can be bestowed, and you won’t ever change how I feel about how and when I got pregnant. I won’t allow somebody like you to walk away thinking that you’ve somehow shown or shamed me, or made me second guess my life choices. Instead I will focus on the blessing that my first daughter was, and I will be forever grateful that she came into my/our lives when she did. And if you were to ask my girls, all three of them feel like they should already be done having their babies…well, let me rephrase that; the older two feel that way. They feel like they’re already going to be “old moms.” So you see BethyCakes, you haven’t insulted me, my husband or my girls in the least, you’ve done the exact opposite. You’ve reminded me how thankful I am to have my girls and to still have my man. Thank you for re-centering me, you’re the real MVP.